Communion: The Female Search for Love: 2 (Love Song to the Nation, 2)

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I found again and again that if I talked openly about the importance of giving and receiving love in my life, especially about my desire to have a partner, there feelings were ridiculed or mocked.

Amor que la mayoría de veces se confunde con sexo y más exactamente con una lucha por el poder en el terreno sexual. Yakın zamana kadar kim olduğumuzu ve erkekler kadar iyi olabileceğimizi anlatmaya çalışırken onların bize verdikleri kalıplara uymaya çalıştık. It gave room for ebullient reading and the possibility to weave in vigorous gender and feminist arguments from different acclaimed authors, some of which I have cited above. hooks' treatise on love is passionate and positive, and goes a long way to build up strength and determination in readers. One blue shiny thing I did get from this section is that if feminism rejects love outright then people looking for love have no where to find it except in oppressive cultural products, which could probably have been written in one chapter.Had they taken to heart medical ways of defining shifts in midlife, they might have been forced to take on board the negative implications this word would bring -- the heavy weight of loss it evokes. Perhaps she is right about the man in this particular case purposefully withholding, but I would argue that women are equally capable of purposefully withholding and men have just as much right to say no, even over extended periods of time. In my conversations and interviews, it was rare for any female to admit that we had found even one or two of these qualities in male romantic partners. Lesbianism, Hook claims, is a possible way to obtain healthy love and, hence, find one’s actual being.

shout outs to bell for helping start this conversation that we needed at the beginning of the 21st century.Bell hooks shares that the original work of love is the cultivation of care, knowledge, respect, and responsibility in relation to the self. While feminism helped these women soar, it often failed to change in any way the lives of masses of ordinary women. I had the same critique of Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good, in that I think that book needed a more nuanced discussion of the practice of BDSM.

The more able a woman is to assert agency on behalf of her well-being, the less desirable she may be in the patriarchal culture.In chapters as personal and prescriptive as bell is passionate and provoking, Communion guides us toward the path that leads to true fulfillment. It didn't give me the same feeling of power/energy to love like All About Love did—what were my illusions?

bell hooks will be like, "MOST WOMEN had fathers who left them which is why WE seek out men who are emotionally unavailable. I think this book was supposed to inspire me, but it just made me sort of sad/convinced if I ever do experience Hook's definition of love, I'll have to at least be 40.

This has been my experience the last few years, as I've learned to have nonsexual friendships with extraordinary men that are emotionally intimate, safe, and inspiring. Targeted towards women in midlife, I think this book is a very important read for young women in their 20’s and 30’s to start doing the work of self-love now with wisdom from women in midlife. And the outcome of that work is often the recognition that they would rather be alone than remain in unsatisfying partnerships. She discusses the false idea that women are naturally more loving, showing how this is part of patriarchy, and argues that everyone can (and must) learn to love, optimally beginning in childhood. I found pages and pages to be saying things that I (and I think most eager feminists in their 20s) would have thought about already, but then again, this book has a very broad target audience!