A Good Spanking

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It usually occurs around a particular traumatic episode, which is then stamped into the child’s psyche,’ Dr Spelman explains. Look at non-physical consequences. Firmly and patiently tell them what needs to happen. Spanking should never be a first resort, and there are other ways to handle misbehavior. [2] X Research source [3] X Research source [4] X Research source [5] X Research source

The following are answers to common questions about spanking therapy. Is spanking therapy always sexual?De Neef., et al. (2019). Bondage-discipline, dominance-submission and sadomasochism (BDSM) from an integrative biopsychosocial perspective: A systematic review. According to a 2015 article, people may take part in BDSM activities such as spanking for nonsexual reasons.

To avoid injury to your child, you should keep a safe distance from the genital area, the coccyx (tailbone) and the kidneys of the child. Classical conditioning is a type of behaviourism that falls within this area, and acts an automatic response to prior learning – i.e. the spanking can be linked to something you’ve experienced in the past. https://journalofpositivesexuality.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/Parallels-Between-BDSM-and-Extreme-Ritual-Sagarin-Lee-Klement.pdf It is meant to send a strong message, not to be used on a daily basis. And it should never be motivated by anger or meant to illicit feelings of shame or guilt.

Spanking therapy is not necessarily sexual, and some people may see it in a similar way to other forms of physical therapy. Others may see it as a more ritualistic experience. Time outs. A time out should last roughly 1 minute for each year of age (e.g. 2-minute time outs for a 2-year-old). Give a choice. Let the child choose between two or three options that you are okay with. For example, if your child is resisting getting dressed, say "You can put on your shirt first or your pants first." Stress release: Individuals may find similar benefits from spanking therapy as those from mindful activities, such as meditation. http://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/four-in-five-americans-believe-parents-spanking-their-children-is-sometimes-appropriate-225314281.html

Harris Interactive. (2013, September 26). Fourin five Americans believe parents spanking their children is sometimes appropriate.[Press release] However this is not the only reason people have a desire to be spanked as there are several other psychological theories which state other ideas. Logical consequences. Tell the child to clean up a mess they made, fix something they broke, or pay for a broken thing they can't fix. This teaches them to fix their own mistakes. (If they are too young to clean or pay for it, you can do it together with them.) http://www.endcorporalpunishment.org/assets/pdfs/reference-documents/International-health-organisations-statement-in-support-of-prohibition.pdf Individuals may find it provides a new experience and a release from their everyday selves and responsibilities. Why might people like being spanked?

Statement by international health organizationsin support of prohibition and elimination of all corporal punishment of children.(n.d.) But if spanking is an accepted form of punishment in your home, what are the chances that in a moment of anger you might lapse and resort to this punishment when you shouldn’t, or more aggressively than you should?

Labrecque, F., et al. (2020). What is so appealing about being spanked, flogged, dominated, or restrained? Answers from practitioners of sexual masochism/submission. Sagarin, B. J., et al. (2015). Sadomasochism without sex? Exploring the parallels between BDSM and extreme rituals.Spiritual experience: Some people report that SM practices alter their state of consciousness, providing them with a sense of connection, wholeness, and mind expansion. Escapism or sense of adventure: People may find spanking therapy a way to change their routine and elevate their experience from mundane or everyday matters. Reclaiming or relinquishing power through the act of spanking may help some people regain psychological control over past traumatic events.